Breaking the Negativity Habit

A few days ago, I had a conversation with a friend of mine during which I made a negative comment about my home based business and how my recruiting has been going this month. Before the comment was even fully out of my mouth, she stopped me and told me to take back what it was I'd said. As a student of the law of attraction, that conversation led me to wonder exactly how one goes about breaking the negativity habit.

I believe that the choice that's not good for us, like smoking, overeating, not exercising, or being negative, is usually the easy choice because it really doesn't require us to do anything other than what we've become accustomed to doing. Doing the right thing, though, is often very difficult because it usually requires us to get out of our comfort zone which can be a very trying and uncomfortable experience. But if doing the right thing, in this case, breaking the negativity habit, could result in some really great changes in your life, wouldn't it be worth it?

According to The Secret, if you don't have what you want, it's because you are focused more on what you don't want than on what you do want. It seems simplistic, but the law of attraction says that if you focus on whatever it is you want, whether it's money, a relationship, good health, etc., rather than on what you don't want or what you don't have, those things that you want will manifest themselves in your life.

But the question is, how do you make that change? If you are a habitually negative person, how do you train yourself to become a positive person? If your current situation is so dire, that you can hardly think of anything else, how do you change your focus? Well, you must be aware of your thoughts and your words. Both are extermely powerful. When you find yourself saying or thinking something negative, you must immediately replace those negative thoughts or words with positive thoughts or words. Martha Beck, in Just What You Need (O, The Oprah Magazine, April 2009), says that we must change our attitude from one of "just in case" to one of "just in time". Rather than focusing on what we don't have and hoarding possessions, controlling our relationships, and overeating out of a sense that we simply will never have enough, we should focus on the fact that everything we need will arrive just in time.

According to Beck, the thought "everything good is readily available" changes how the body stores fat and enables the body to actually shed excess fat. I think that focusing on this thought whenever we find ourselves being negative or worrying about whatever it is we lack can shift our attention to how much we actually have. That shift coupled with feelings of gratitude for how blessed we truly are, regardless of what we may be going through right now, opens the door for all good things to enter our lives.

Taking Action and the Law of Attraction

Twice within the past week, once while reading a book about writing and again while reading a daily meditation, I came upon the topic of pursuing dreams. The gist of each of these writings is that if you have a dream, once you set your mind to achieving it by taking action, the universe moves and makes resources (creativity, insight, money, people, etc.) available to you that you may never have believed possible. It's the law of attraction at its best and most powerful!

I've experienced this myself. A few months ago, I was given the gift of some free software called Promoter Full. To be honest, it is not the most user friendly software. After downloading it to my computer and fooling around with it for several hours, I became frustrated and moved on to other tasks. Well, I did not even think about Promoter Full for a week or so. Then one night as I lay in bed, it hit me. I knew exactly how to use that software!

The next morning, I got up, turned on my computer, and pulled up Promoter Full. And sure enough, I had it all figured out. I immediately used that software to post to a couple of Google Groups and other sites to which I belong. I taught three of my Success Blueprint colleagues how to use it. Somehow, I had become proficient at Promoter Full! It was incredible and the only explanation is the universe (God) at work!

It truly is incredible how we become inspired or, better, how inspiration finds its way into our hearts and minds. So, the next time you have an idea, take action and see what tools and resources the universe makes available to you and BE THANKFUL for them.