Breaking the Negativity Habit

A few days ago, I had a conversation with a friend of mine during which I made a negative comment about my home based business and how my recruiting has been going this month. Before the comment was even fully out of my mouth, she stopped me and told me to take back what it was I'd said. As a student of the law of attraction, that conversation led me to wonder exactly how one goes about breaking the negativity habit.

I believe that the choice that's not good for us, like smoking, overeating, not exercising, or being negative, is usually the easy choice because it really doesn't require us to do anything other than what we've become accustomed to doing. Doing the right thing, though, is often very difficult because it usually requires us to get out of our comfort zone which can be a very trying and uncomfortable experience. But if doing the right thing, in this case, breaking the negativity habit, could result in some really great changes in your life, wouldn't it be worth it?

According to The Secret, if you don't have what you want, it's because you are focused more on what you don't want than on what you do want. It seems simplistic, but the law of attraction says that if you focus on whatever it is you want, whether it's money, a relationship, good health, etc., rather than on what you don't want or what you don't have, those things that you want will manifest themselves in your life.

But the question is, how do you make that change? If you are a habitually negative person, how do you train yourself to become a positive person? If your current situation is so dire, that you can hardly think of anything else, how do you change your focus? Well, you must be aware of your thoughts and your words. Both are extermely powerful. When you find yourself saying or thinking something negative, you must immediately replace those negative thoughts or words with positive thoughts or words. Martha Beck, in Just What You Need (O, The Oprah Magazine, April 2009), says that we must change our attitude from one of "just in case" to one of "just in time". Rather than focusing on what we don't have and hoarding possessions, controlling our relationships, and overeating out of a sense that we simply will never have enough, we should focus on the fact that everything we need will arrive just in time.

According to Beck, the thought "everything good is readily available" changes how the body stores fat and enables the body to actually shed excess fat. I think that focusing on this thought whenever we find ourselves being negative or worrying about whatever it is we lack can shift our attention to how much we actually have. That shift coupled with feelings of gratitude for how blessed we truly are, regardless of what we may be going through right now, opens the door for all good things to enter our lives.